A few weeks back, I wrote about talking to strangers. In addition to talking to “strangers,” I’ve also been experimenting with accepting their acknowledgements and assistance when offered to me. How many times has someone asked, “Do you need a hand”, or “Can I help you with that,” to which my immediate response is, “No thanks, I’ve got it”.
Even when those statements are true – and let’s be honest, there have been plenty of times when I politely denied help that I really did need – why not accept the help? Why deny that individual the opportunity to lend his or her kindness and generosity to another human being? And why deny myself the opportunity to be on the RECEIVING end of kindness and generosity?
We do not live or work in isolation. Yet, we often behave as though we do. As if we are “in it alone” and must bear life’s burdens, big and small, without help or companionship. The truth is we live in a society. A community of fellow men and women. Each dealing with his or her own version of life’s challenges, joys, hopes, and setbacks. The belief of isolation is a lie (part of the “Lie of Scarcity” which I’ll write more about soon).
Isolation has become such an ingrained and accepted lie that we align our behavior accordingly. Not wanting to share many details of our lives, our default behavior is often to deny ourselves and others the opportunity for connection. Which leads us to feel separate from one another and disconnected, living right into the lie of isolation. This is a common experience in our workplaces too.
The truth is we are always interconnected; even when we don’t feel as though we are. I need you. You need me. What if we lived from the truth of interconnectedness, community, & camaraderie, rather than from the lie of isolation? How do we do that? I wrote a few thoughts in previous articles (links below). And if you’re ready to dig into the how of shifting your own personal beliefs about isolation and scarcity, the best place to do that is in a 1-on-1 coaching relationship. Give me a call or an email. Let’s get started!
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