In last week’s post, you identified your core values – the qualities and behaviors that lead you to experience a sense of wholeness, satisfaction, and peace. The next step is to look at how you express these important values through your leadership, and in your daily life.
My Values Expression worksheet, which you’ll find here, will help you look at your daily reality through the lens of your values. Follow the steps on the worksheet to rate how much or little each of your important values are being expressed through your current activities, conversations, relationships, decisions; even in your thoughts.
For example, if a value of yours is open-mindedness, yet you find yourself thinking judgmental thoughts much of the time, you are likely to be experiencing some dissonance or discontent. Or perhaps “Family Time” is a value, yet you spend very little quality or recreational time with your partner or children.
Your completed worksheet provides a launching point for exploring your current activities and priorities. Based on your ratings, consider which of your current activities and priorities create connection with your values, and which ones disconnect you from your values. This is often a rich area for making new, more empowering choices and decisions.
Choose the one value that feels most important to you at this time. Ask yourself, in order to live and lead with more intention:
What must I say YES to? (i.e.: letting go, appreciation, laughter, transparency…)
What must I say NO to? (i.e.: jumping to conclusions, self-sacrifice, the role of victim…)
People only change when they truly want to change—and the proposed changes must be important to the long-term vision of their lives in order for them to sustain the energy for the effort.
This process begins with envisioning and articulating who you are at your very best; who you are when you live and lead most effectively, fully, and happily. In other words, who you are when you live in a way that aligns with and expresses your deeply held values.