My family and I are in the process of creating a bright, fun play space for my kids in our basement. The basement is pretty big and, up til a week ago, contained my office in one part and a home gym in another part. Inherent in the process of creating something new in this space, is the reality that the old will have to change or be let go. Partly because I’m a coach and partly because “I’m just like that,” the process has been filled with profound learnings for me.
Like this one, “Getting rid of stuff frees up space.” How’s that for profound? Ok, not so much. Taken literally, that is an obvious statement. As I’ve carted many bags and boxes of stuff to the Goodwill store, beautiful SPACE has appeared in my basement. And taken metaphorically, it works the same way. Getting rid of the ‘stuff’ I no longer need (i.e.: self-doubt, beliefs or assumptions that are not serving me, guilt or anxiety over the coulda, woulda, shoulda’s…) frees up SPACE. SPACE, in this context, might include the likes of mental clarity, energy, sense of calm, belief in myself, joy, and gratitude.
With such wonderful space-making possibilities, I often wonder why I hold on to my stuff so long. Why do you hold on to your stuff so long? Comfort of the known is surely a powerful force at work here. Even when the “known” is stressful, unfulfilling, or guilt producing. Couple comfort of the known with fear of the unknown and we humans aren’t generally too quick to let go of our stuff. The good news is that letting go gets easier the more we do it. Perhaps as we realize the freedom and peacefulness we can experience without the drag of our stuff, forward momentum builds and letting go becomes an empowered choice.
What to keep and what to let go of? Questions that might help point you in a useful direction:
1) What are you tolerating in your life right now?
2) Where does your joy come from?
3) If you had a secret passion, what would it be?
4) What are your 3-5 core values?
“The more you have, the more you are occupied. The less you have, the more free you are.” Mother Theresa
Wishing you and yours a very blessed Thanksgiving!